11 years.

Dear Ed,

Can you believe it — somehow, I’ve managed to get through 11 years without you earth side. Eleven years ago, I had no idea what life would be like today, without you, but alas, here we are.

Some things are still the same and have not changed: our parents are still miserable and still not treating their only living child very well. They have zero relationship with their one grandchild, your niece. But they seem to think this is all okay, and that they must be doing exemplary work!

Kaia is here, though. Even during her “terrible twos” tantrums and whining, I still look at her and see her as my life’s greatest gift and blessing. She makes me unbelievably happy and gives me hope for the future. She is adorable, smart, cheeky, and very opinionated. I still can’t believe that at age 2.5, she has opinions on what she wears! If you were here, you’d likely spoil her rotten with all her favorite dresses. She far prefers dresses to shorts and t-shirts this summer. She especially loves the big twirly skirts and tutus.

I told you, but I skipped going home last year because I didn’t want to deal with our parents’ drama and constant anger and resentment. This year, I am going back to San Francisco for a work offsite and extended it to the two surrounding weekends. I still haven’t spoken with our parents about the visit. I’ve only texted them because I really cannot stomach listening to our mom speak. I already know she’s going to be rude and nasty when I eventually have to call. Part of me is just wondering what it would be like if I went home for nine days and just didn’t have any contact with them at all. It might actually be glorious, but I’d eventually feel guilt and cave in. Our mom accused me of not calling her as often (this was back in February) because she said she “knew” the reason: it’s because she didn’t send money to Kaia. It was unbelievable — completely false, and just filled with venom. She doesn’t understand how poisonous her brain is. And since then, I have refused to call her. She is never going to understand that she cannot just say and do awful things to me and expect zero consequences. I first texted our dad to let him know we were coming back. He simply responded, “Aren’t you supposed to notify mom?” Typical, emotionally immature, idiotic response. What else did we expect, anyway?

Luckily, as I reflect back on the last eleven years, I realize that I have grown emotionally in terms of how I deal with our parents: I am better able to compartmentalize my anger against them. I don’t let it seep into all my thoughts throughout the day and before I go to bed the way I used to. Isn’t that amazing – I have grown! So when I don’t have to or want to think about them, I just don’t, and I feel completely fine, of sound mind, and healthy. But when I do think of them, I just wish they didn’t exist, as sad as that is to say. They have caused so much anger, sadness, and disappointment in our lives, not to mention damage, that I’ve had to spend most of my life trying to get back on course and fixing it all.

And then, there’s you: they try to go on with their lives as though you never existed. And that angers me. Granted, they treated you horribly when you were here, so it’s not like they would venerate you after death, but come on — deal with the fact that you had two kids, and one of them died by suicide. They are emotionally and psychologically incapable of accepting that they make mistakes and taking responsibility for them.

So while we are connected by family and blood, you and I are also connected by our wounds. As the great Japanese writer Haruki Murakami once wrote: “One heart is not connected to another through harmony alone. They are, instead, linked deeply through their wounds. Pain linked to pain, fragility to fragility. There is no silence without a cry of grief, no forgiveness without bloodshed, no acceptance without a passage through acute loss. That is what lies at the root of true harmony.” But Kaia Pookie gives me hope for the future… not for them, but for the future. When I look at her face, especially her nose, I see you. And I know I have to do right by you and try to be the best mother I can be to your niece. I at least owe you that much.

I miss you. I hope you are doing well wherever you are up there. I thought about you when I watched the Snoopy show on the plane ride back from Buenos Aires. In my mind, you and Snoopy/Peanuts/Charlie Brown are forever interconnected. Can you believe I am in my 39th year of life? Chris very nicely reminded me a couple times this past week that I am “middle aged.” It’s strange, though. When I thought about aging when I was a teen, I never thought that I’d be aging without you. You’re supposed to be turning 45 this year. But that will never happen. I am still aging, though. These stupid sun spots on my face keep reminding me of my aging process. I do not like them and am considering getting them removed. But that is a story for another day for you. I thought a lot about death when we were doing our will and estate planning earlier this year. And I thought a lot about what I hope Kaia will remember about me once I’m gone. I try hard to be good to her and to be a good human so that I can be a good role model to her. Anyway, as far as I am concerned, while I may be in my late 30s, I feel quite spritely and know that my health is that of someone much younger. And I suppose in my head, I’ll always feel a bit like a child — not sure if that is a good or a bad thing, or maybe a little of A and B.

See you on the other side… and I do hope that the other side is quite far from today. I need to see Kaia Pookie grow up and become her own person. Wait for me patiently, will you?

With all my love,

Yvonne

Running hugs and kisses – Pookster’s latest favorite pastime

Every stage of babyhood and toddlerhood is amazing in itself when you are literally watching your child grow every day. I’ve been so fortunate that I had a long (by U.S. standards) maternity leave and have a flexible schedule that allows me a good amount of time with Pookster. Watching her little changes day to day has always fascinated me. And I love seeing the things that she really gets into that seems to change week to week.

While we were in our Santiago hotel, one thing I would do is open my arms wide from about 5-10 feet away from her, and she’d get excited, start giggling, and run at full speed into my arms. Usually, it would be quite an impact, so part of me might even fall back a little, and I’d yell out a little “oomph!” as she dug her face into my chest and neck. But that would just add to the effect and her excitement, as she’d want to do it again and again. If I don’t initiate it and Pookster wants to do it, she’d say, “I wanna hug.” And that would be a cue for me to back up, open my arms wide, and wait for her to run into me. She also has taken a liking to smushing her face into mine and even biting my lips. Pookster can get quite aggressive sometimes with the face smushing. I just hope I don’t get a black eye with all this affection.

Sometimes when we are doing little activities like this, I get a little sad, thinking that one day, she will not be this easily amused, want to hug or kiss me, or even want to be anywhere near me. She may want to spend all her time with her friends and little to no time at all with me. But it’s just a reminder to me to soak up all the cuddles now when I can and she allows me to; to continue trying my best to create a safe space for her to be herself, voice her thoughts and opinions, and let her be who she wants to be. Every now and then, I look back at older photos and videos of her, and as trite as it sounds, I just can’t believe how quickly she is growing; even just 3-4 months ago, she had chubbier cheeks that I loved to pinch and hold. And now we’re getting into the next “big kid” phase of potty training, which is another reminder to me that every day, as much as it makes me sad, my baby is less of a baby, and far more of a growing big kid.

And hopefully with these intentions, Pooks will still want to cuddle and kiss me, even when she’s 10, 20, 30, or 40-plus years old.

First Saturday back from South America means… spicy food!

For the last two weeks, while we’ve enjoyed the food in South America, one thing that was blatantly missing in every single meal was… spice. There wasn’t much spice in almost anything we ate. Sure, there might have been cinnamon in some of the desserts we ate. But there wasn’t anything even remotely hot spicy. There were times we thought we might get it, like when we had a ceviche in Santiago or even ordered a lamb curry at a tapas restaurant in Montevideo, but there was literally no heat in any food we ate whatsoever. Towards the second half of our trip, Chris started making comments about this.

“This could be spicy… but it isn’t,” he’d comment. “If this just had a little heat, this dish would be even better!”

There were a few times I thought something would be spicy, and it wasn’t even a smidgen. The two times we had chimichurri sauce (a delicious oil based sauce made with blended parsley, coriander, and garlic, oftentimes served with steak) in Argentina, the chimichurri was not green as I anticipated, but red. I later read that these were red because the restaurants added smoked paprika and likely some red bell pepper. Unfortunately, neither of those ingredients are spicy-hot. They are tasty… just not spicy. Oh well.

Chris loves the food almost anywhere and everywhere we have visited in the world. But he definitely likes his spice. And he is generally a bit disappointed when he doesn’t get it for too long. So when we got back, I knew he’d be craving spicy food. And I had a big, big hunch that he’d choose a Thai spot for our Saturday afternoon outing. And if it wasn’t Thai, it would be Indian, but I was doubting that. I was almost certain it would be Thai.

And Thai it was. We went to Bushwick and ended up at Chiangmai Diner and Bar. It was a beautiful corner restaurant, with lots of beautiful green tiling, fun decor, glowing lanterns in the back of the restaurant with full floor to ceiling murals. Even the bathroom matched the restaurant’s chic decor and smelled heavenly (I even noted the candle that was fragrantly lit in the bathroom for futur reference). We had spicy papaya salad with a fermented fish sauce that we’d never had before, which made the salad far more pungent than usual; a fried fish fritter appetizer known to be popular street food in Bangkok, sai oua spaghetti, and boat noodles. Everything was delicious with lots of complex flavors dancing in your mouth all at once, and other than the fish fritters, everything was spicy. Chris’s favorite thing (and Pookster’s) was the sai oua spaghetti, which had a really addictive umami spiciness along with nice al dente noodles for a fun fusion Thai dish; the sai oua was most definitely house made with fresh galangal and makrut lime leaf, with a nice soft texture. But for me, it was a pretty close tie between the boat noodles and the sai oua sausage noodles. I’ve been listening to Hot Thai Kitchen’s Sabai podcast on Thai food and culture, and in one of her episodes, Pailin says that if she could have just one noodle soup for the rest of her entire life, boat noodles would be it. But when she said it, I doubted I’d ever had a really good or authentic bowl of boat noodles (no, I definitely have not. And I knew I hadn’t as soon as she said that authentic boat noodles are enriched with pig’s blood, which makes for a more intense and rich soup). But this boat noodle soup… I could definitely have this again and again.

So yes, this is one of many signs that I absolutely know my husband. He always loves to say that he knows me better than anyone else… At the same time, I would also like to say that I know him better than anyone else… regardless of whether he wants to admit that or not (out loud).

Summer fruit excitement: longans, lychees, and rambutans

From March to July each year here in New York, we get excited for our ataulfo mangoes, all yellow, plentiful, and sweet coming from Mexico. If you come to our apartment during this time, you can expect to see at least 5-10 of them, all lined up by our living room/kitchen windows, socially distanced comfortably to prevent over ripening too quickly and all at the same time. But once July hits, the supply of mangoes starts to dwindle. There are less sales for the ataulfos. And then eventually, we have to bid farewell to yellow mangoes for the summer. If we get lucky and see some nice green/red or Kent mangoes at an Asian or Indian grocery store, we may pick them up, but usually July is the last time we will have mangoes in the Northern Hemisphere for the year.

When we returned from South America, I was sad to see that the mangoes were no longer on sale at Whole Foods and regular priced. So this was an indicator to me that we would no longer have them regularly this summer. Then, my focus switched to summer exotic fruits we can get in Chinatown, like longans (my fave!), lychees, and rambutans. I went down to my favorite street vendors at Mulberry and Canal yesterday, and it was like a galore of all my favorite Asian fruit all lined up. I got three pounds of lychees (3 lb for $10!), one pound of rambutans ($4/lb), one pound of longans ($5/lb), and two pounds of very sweet red cherries (two pounds for $5). I had just bought seven pounds of fruit for $24. The fruit vendor at that stand was likely very, very happy. My shoulders were heavy carrying all that fruit, plus all the other goodies and groceries I picked up yesterday. But I know my stomach (and Pookster’s and Chris’s) will be full from all these seasonal exotic fruit delights!

New Golden Fung Wong Bakery is closing in Manhattan Chinatown

While in South America, I was saddened to learn that one of the oldest and long-standing bakeries in Manhattan Chinatown is closing at the end of July. Once upon a time in the early 1960s, New Golden Fung Wong Bakery opened on Mott Street. Manhattan Chinatown was predominantly Toisanese and Cantonese due to restrictive immigration law and early immigration patterns. They became known among those who know (this is another case of #iykyk) for their moon cakes, winter melon cakes (lao po bing), and hopia, various flaky snack cakes filled with black bean or scallions with pork fat. I am embarrassed to say that while they had been on my radar for a while, because I always had so many places I wanted to try (and repeat places to return to) every time I went down to Chinatown, I did not actually step foot into this shop until the pandemic period, so 12 years after I first moved here. I loved their non conventional mooncake filled with black sesame ($7.50 is a steep price to pay for a moon cake, but given I knew it was all black sesame, I was happy to pay it and its rising price). And their lao po bing, aka old wife cake, aka winter melon cakes, were probably the best ones I’ve had outside of the ones my dad used to buy me at a specific bakery along Stockton Street in San Francisco Chinatown. Most places use a lot of cheap filler for their lao po bing; New Golden Fung Wong puts all the good stuff in to make this cake extra special for those who appreciate it.

I went into their shop today and after ordering my black sesame moon cake and lao po bing (fresh out of the oven, still on the baking tray!), I told the worker that I heard they were closing at the end of the month, and I asked why. She sighed and responded that the owners were retiring and had no family members or kids who wanted to continue the business, so they had no choice but to fully close down. It was really sad to hear this news in person, as well as to see the signs written in Chinese on the front that July 31 would be its last day in business.

New Golden Fung Wong is a no-frills bakery. They don’t sell anything trendy or any new bao that’s being developed by up and coming pastry chefs in Hong Kong. But it’s the type of bakery my grandma would have loved and frequented, and also the kind of place my parents would appreciate and want to give business to. Times are changing, and tastes are evolving. But it makes me sad that this institutional bakery is closing because it could mean that for the next generation, like Kaia’s, they may never even know what these classic, nostalgic Cantonese treats were and how delicious they are. I’m seriously tempted to go back to the shop one last time to get my fill of black sesame moon cake and lao po bing before July 31 to not only support the owners in their journey to retirement, but also to quell my own sadness that I won’t ever be able to enjoy New Golden Fung Wong treats ever again after July has ended.

The Snoopy Show on Apple TV+

On the flight back from Buenos Aires to New York, I was pleasantly surprised to find that there were Bluey episodes available to watch. Five episodes were available, and given they were only about seven minutes long each, I watched all of them. Funnily enough, even though we have been reading Bluey books and listening to the theme song on repeat for Kaia, I’d actually never watched a single episode prior to this flight. Based on the books, I already thought the premise of Bluey was sweet. After having read several books of Bluey to Kaia, I knew I would like the general stories and themes. There’s definitely gentle parenting happening here, where parents are gentle and kind with their children, democratic, but still firm. And at the end of the night, the ending is very real for today: once both Bluey and Bingo are asleep, both Chili and Bandit (the parents) plop themselves on their couches; one gets on his phone, and the other gets on her iPad. Yes, that is what you do when you have a “break” from parenting today, as any parent of young children today can attest to!

After I was done, and after Kaia had fallen asleep, I decided to skim through what else was available for kids to watch. And that was when I stumbled upon The Snoopy Show on Apple TV+. I didn’t know this existed, and since I was feeling a bit nostalgic, I decided to watch one episode, which was called “Happiness is a Dancing Dog.” It was almost half an hour long, so it was quite a commitment for me for a cartoon TV show. Assuming all of this is based on Charles Schulz’s original Peanuts comic strip, I actually learned a few things about Charlie Brown and friends that I didn’t know before: I didn’t realize that Snoopy was chosen by Charlie Brown as the last dog in a litter. Apparently, all the other dogs seemed to have a bolder personality than Snoopy, which was why no dog buyers wanted him. He seemed a bit timid and out of it. Charlie Brown was experiencing a lot of sadness, which is what prompted him to get a dog… which ended up being Snoopy. And with Charlie Brown, Snoopy really lit up. He took charge. He performed many acts of love and service for Charlie Brown to get him out of his rut. And so, it’s no wonder that Charlie Brown and Snoopy loved each other and became inseparable.

As I was watching this, I remembered the big Macy’s Snoopy Ed got me for Christmas in 2006. I actually went into the archives of this blog to discover I wrote about this back in December 2015, nine years after this happened. I had originally asked Ed if he could buy one for my friend, as she had tried to buy one, but they were sold out at her nearest Macy’s. At the time, Ed worked at Macy’s in Stonestown (it’s still hard to believe that Macy’s no longer exists at Stonestown Galleria in San Francisco!), so he had easy access to whatever stock came in first. He not only helped me get my friend a Snoopy, but he secretly got me the same one for Christmas that year. That was the kind of person Ed always was: generous, always eager to please. He always insisted that I stop denying myself “things” that I wanted and just get them. Why not? he said, if it makes you happy?

I think about Ed a lot whenever I see Peanuts or anything Snoopy related. I suppose it’s because, similar to Peanuts, I think Ed was often misunderstood. A lot of people look at the surface level of Peanuts and they think it’s just some kiddie cartoon strip with no meaning or purpose. But that could not be farther from the case. If it really were just that, there is no way that Peanuts could possibly be as timeless as it is and as loved today as it was back in the 1950s. Peanuts comic strips had a lot of very complex ideas conveyed in just a few words that were quite philosophical and psychological. It addressed important and deep concepts like love, death, depression (yes, really), and… what else really is out there in the world? And I think that it had a lot of important messages to its viewers or readers, messages that could easily get overlooked if you didn’t think about it enough; the types of messages that can seem trite, but when delivered effectively and smartly through a comic strip, really do come through — messages like, never stop trying! Know your value and worth! Think about “big” questions and the bigger world and universe around you! Embrace your imagination! Even those who are wise still need security and support (hello, Linus and his security blanket)! And… enjoy the simple things.

After I finished watching this Snoopy episode, I turned off the TV. Who would appreciate knowing about this show? Of course, Ed would. And in my sleepy state, I thought for a second, I’m going to tell Ed about this! And then, once again, I caught myself and remembered… once again, that he isn’t here for me to tell.

So, I’ll just have to write him a letter and tell him in my dreams.

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Potty training

We came back to daycare this week to find out that pretty much every single child across both 2s classrooms were in the process of potty training… except Kaia. Kaia is already over 31 months old. Depending on the source you read, the “sweet spot” for potty training is at around 27 months. We were lazy and not focused on it, so we never even thought about actually doing it back in March when we probably should have. And of course, Chris being Chris, he got annoyed to think that our child was behind in her cohort. “We need to start pushing!” he insisted. We tried to get Pookster to sit on the potty this week, and luckily, she did start sitting on it for a bit. Our teacher told us that she had been sitting on the potty at school for up to two minutes, just that nothing came out.

I finally opened the “Oh Crap!” potty training book this week to get into it, and it looks like we will probably need to start with the naked “watching” phase for at least a day to see if we can push her to pee or poop in the Baby Bjorn potty I got for her via my Buy-Nothing group. Diapers are annoying for all kinds of reasons (packing for a two-week trip with so many taking up so much space in the luggage was pretty grating), but they are especially annoying when you know your child is capable of potty training and is very verbal and smart. I hope we haven’t missed the ripe window to potty train and that she won’t be too stubborn about learning. Potty training is not innate; it’s all socialized. So, we will just need to push her to do it, just as I did with walking. Walking happened just a minute after I really pushed her. I don’t think potty training will happen as quickly, but we can only hope and be optimistic.

Flying up and down the globe

We arrived back in New York yesterday morning after an overnight flight from Buenos Aires. The flight was scheduled for about 10.5 hours, but I think the actual flight time was closer to 9.5 Although we have not done a lot of flying back and forth between South America, I can say that one of the biggest benefits of flying down there and back is that we don’t have a huge time zone adjustment. Usually, when you fly 9-12 hours on a plane, you can expect to either cross the international date line (ugh, usually the longest body clock/time adjustment) or be in a much different time zone. On this trip, we’ve only ever had to adjust by an hour at most. This also made it much easier to manage Pookster and her sleep, as she never really needed to “adjust.” Oftentimes when I chat with other parents of young children, they always complain and say that they are terrified of dealing with a time zone difference with their babies/toddlers and they don’t want to waste an entire week adjusting to the new time zone. Well, here’s one way to get out of it: fly from the U.S. down to a South American country, stat!

Eating and cooking after a meat and carb intensive trip

There’s no way to sugar coat this: we didn’t have very many vegetables during this trip. Overall, we probably had more while we were in Chile, but in Uruguay and Argentina, we had very little other than the vegetables we proactively ate during breakfast at our hotel. Kaia was also seemingly on a vegetable strike: she didn’t eat almost any vegetable offered to her nearly the entire trip, and especially in Argentina. She ate lots of pasta… perhaps too much pasta, and a good amount of meat, but no greens were in sight almost at all. So I wanted to make sure we took care of that when we got back.

Today, I spent most of the day defrosting food and cooking vegetables. It was clear right away that even Kaia missed her vegetables: she ate multiple servings of each type almost right away, and she seemed to reject something she usually loves: sticky rice (Chinese and Vietnamese). Who knows — maybe her body was telling her to reject the sticky rice because she had already had her carb fill in South America. Either way, I was quite satisfied not only to be eating and cooking vegetables again, but also to see that my toddler wanted them, as well.

I’ve also been preparing my defrosted white beans to make white bean pesto soup, and some dal, which is always a comforting, healthy, and nutritious meal after a heavy eating trip. We’re definitely going to get in our legumes and veggies this week!

Red meat and local desserts in Argentina

Argentine beef is world renowned. The beautiful image we have in our heads of cows in Argentina is that they graze freely on the vast Pampas (fertile Argentine grass-covered plains) and live a happy, idyllic life before eventually becoming your steak dinner. Cattles were first brought to Argentina back in the 1530s by Spanish conquistadors. Due to the geography of the Pampas and what was then a small national market, the cattle multiplied rapidly, and so started the Argentine beef market.

A friend’s husband visited Argentina about two decades ago and still talks about how the beef he ate while in Argentina was the best steak of his life. He said he couldn’t describe what made it tastier, but that he always held it in high regard. Unfortunately, the beef we have enjoyed while here is likely very different from the beef he had over 20 years ago while visiting Buenos Aires. Since the mid-2000s, feed lots have grown exponentially in Argentina due to government subsidies aimed at increasing beef production to meet the growing demand, both domestically and internationally. With feed lots, they are exactly what you would imagine they are based on their name: you line up hundreds, if not thousands, of cows in cramped, tight quarters, and constantly feed them endless grain and soy until they plump up and mature enough to be slaughtered for meat. They are basically “the way” cows are raised in the U.S. and even in Europe for human consumption. But for the longest time, Argentina resisted them because they were particular about their beef’s taste and texture. In the end, with government subsidies, it became hard for farmers to say no and continue raising cows the traditional Argentine way.

If cows aren’t moving the same or eating the same as they were pre-feed lots, it would be easy to guess that the meat no longer tastes or feels the same. Beef from grass-fed cows generally will have a more intense flavor and a different texture, which makes sense because you are what you eat, and, well, we are what we eat and what they eat.

It made me sad to read this before our trip, but I figured we would still inevitably eat beef and would take what we could get. We had beef on a number of occasions in Buenos Aires, including at the all-you-can-eat Siga La Vaca in Puerto Madero, as well as during our last dinner at Dandy Grill.

Siga La Vaca was quite a value meal, as it’s known to be an all-you-can-eat parrilla experience. Adults eat for about 25,900 pesos, while kids under 7 are free (yet they still get a free drink — we chose bottled water — and their own dessert!!). This price includes your choice of beverage as well as one dessert per person. We told our server that we’d like a glass of red wine each. She came back with an entire bottle of Malbec, which she uncorked and poured into glasses for us! I was pretty shocked and was wondering if we’d get a bill for a bottle later, but that never came.

Siga La Vaca has plenty of prepared foods, ranging from breaded, fried milanesa to various pastas, rices, and salads. But the real draw here is grilled meat. They have various cuts of beef, chicken, and pork (plus their intestines), along with diagrams of all three animals so you know what you are getting when you go to the grill counter. We got a few different cuts, ranging from strip steak (bife angosto) to sirloin (bife de lomo), and several cuts of chicken and pork. I will say that the beef is notably chewier than back in the U.S. It’s true what they say: Argentine beef just has more of a bite, and that’s an acquired taste/texture if you are used to very tender meat. It was enjoyable, especially with the red-hued chimichurri sauce they gave us. I’m not sure what put this meal (and the bargain price we paid) more over the top: the fact that we had unlimited beef, an entire bottle of wine included in our meal cost, or the three generous desserts we got. There were a number of options, and in the end, we chose the chocolate mousse/ice cream, Argentine bread pudding (budin de pan), and flan. Unfortunately for Pookster, we didn’t let her eat an entire dessert on her own, but she definitely had her sugar fix that evening…. if not for the rest of the year.

While I loved the flan (and it was exactly as I imagined it, since I’ve eaten and made quite a bit of flan in my life to date), I will say that the budin de pan was not what I expected at all, but in a good and tasty way. Argentines do not make bread pudding the way we do in the U.S. or Australia. Yes, the core of it is still the same: you take stale (usually white) bread, milk, eggs, and a sweetener, but the execution and presentation is totally different. In the U.S., bread pudding would usually be made individually served in little ramekins/cups or in a large sheet/tray and then sliced per person. The presentation is very rustic or “homemade” in that it doesn’t have a fancy presentation. To contrast, at restaurants or bakeries/cafes in Buenos Aires, bread puddings are served shaped almost exactly like mini flans, unmolded onto a plate, with its caramel oozing down its sides. When the server brought our desserts to the table, initially, I wasn’t actually sure which was the flan and which was the budin de pan. Budin de pan has a lighter but tighter texture because the bread is either cubed much smaller than the average bread pudding in the U.S., or in some cases, the bread is completely blitzed to the point of bread crumbs. In that sense, it really does taken on a pudding like texture. This is how the budin de pan was at Siga La Vaca. It was really delicious with a sweet caramelized sugar top that was slightly crunchy, yet continued to provocatively ooze down onto the side.

At Dandy Grill for our last dinner in Argentina before heading home, we ordered the ojo de bife (the rib eye, which actually is not that popular of a steak cut here in Argentina). It was delicious and juicy, but definitely felt more lean and chewy than the average ribeye you’d order back in the U.S. What I’d say were the standouts at Dandy Grill were a) the cocktails — the fresco de maracuya and the pisco sour (why not while still in South America?) were just sweet and tart enough, and very refreshing; and b) holy crap, the DESSERTS. We ordered the tiramisu and the merengata, an Argentine dessert made of chopped meringue, dulce de leche (of course), whipped cream, mixed berries, and vanilla ice cream. Both servings were far larger than we anticipated, and both were a dessert lover’s dream. This tiramisu was ethereally light – you could barely even detect any lady fingers in there. It wasn’t too sweet and had a really nice balance of sweet, creamy, and a tad bit bitter with the coffee liqueur flavor throughout and the generous dusting of cocoa powder on top. This was likely the best and most impressive tiramisu I’ve had in my life to date. No photo could do this tiramisu justice. I tried to photograph it at different angles, but the photo was just incapable of capturing the taste and texture of this perfect tiramisu. The merengata was also incredible and something I’d order again if I could. I normally do not love meringues, but I thought we’d order this since it’s unique to Argentina, and we’d never heard of it before. It was a good choice: this meringue didn’t have that strange, dry mouth feel I usually associate with meringues and just melted in my mouth after a tiny crunch in each bite. The combination of dulce de leche, whipped cream, berries, and ice cream complemented the meringue perfectly. I was totally obsessed with these desserts and will likely still be thinking about them long after we return home.