I had a long chat with one of my best friends tonight, and she was telling me the story of one of her friends, who is our age and hasn’t dated anyone past the first (and usually blind) date and has had no one she could call a “boyfriend” this whole time. As a Christian, she’s been surrounded by people her age who have been getting married year after year since we’ve graduated from college, and she’s gone to countless weddings and been a bridesmaid more times than she can probably remember by now. She says that she’s come to terms with the fact that she may be single the rest of her life.
The funny thing about hearing this is that while she has no idea what it is like to be in a relationship and think and discuss marriage, I can’t really remember much time in the last ten years when I wasn’t in a relationship. I’ve discussed marriage so many times, yet given the previous failed relationships, it never happened. In some ways, we are on opposite sides of the spectrum, yet I can completely relate to her feeling pressure about marriage when she’s surrounded by married people and babies. It doesn’t really matter whether you are in a relationship or not – the pressure is still there whether it’s overt or not.